What I Learned about the Church in a Psych Ward

 Christianity and Depression

I recently spent a week in a mental hospital. There. I said it.

Family life had been a bit stressful, work was going well, and my side business was growing. Oh, and I was editing a new book about mental illness. But for the better part of a week, I realized I was not okay in my head.

I had suicidal thoughts, and I wasn’t safe to be left alone at my house. A psychiatric ward was the best place for me to recuperate and return to my normal frame of mind.

While I was there, I learned a lot about myself, and how fragile my soul really is. I was truly awestruck by the kindness of the nurses and techs in the ward. I realized how much my perception of personal freedom was shaped by everyday choices we take for granted—like choosing my own food and schedule.

I also learned a lot about the American church.

Most of the people in my wing of the hospital were either literal widows and orphans, or members of a similarly ignored part of society: a grandma who had been forgotten by her family, a young man whose parents had died tragically and left him ill-equipped to deal with the challenges of life, homeless military veterans whose wartime injuries rendered them unemployable, and struggling drug addicts desperate to get clean but struggling to make it happen.

Each of these people felt that nobody cared about them. From what I could tell, they weren’t wrong.

No visitors came for anyone but me that week. Most of the other patients didn’t receive any incoming phone calls except from social workers. Outgoing calls involved lots of crying and promises to do better—and very few “I love you”s. It broke my heart.

We in local churches need to reassess where we spend our resources at a global level, but we also need to do the same individually. We have the opportunity to demonstrate pure and undefiled religion to people struggling with depression, anxiety, and ultimately hopelessness right here in our backyard.

 

“If I’m a Christian why am I depressed?”

Mental illness is still swept under the rug in our churches. I came face to face with my own unhealthiness in the psych ward. There’s no way to avoid deep introspection when you’re lying in bed under suicide watch.

Ever since my stay at the psych ward, I carefully consider how much to tell people about my week there. If I’m honest, I have some shame about it. I’m a good Christian, I shouldn’t have depression. I shouldn’t have ended up where I did (says the lies I’ve been fed). And I know I’m not alone in believing these lies.

Nobody wants to talk about the uncomfortable facts, but mental illness is rampant in America. Approximately 25% of people in this country self-identify with, or have been diagnosed with, one or more mental illnesses.

This includes the “easy” mental illnesses like anxiety or depression, but it’s not limited to those. PTSD impacts people from every walk of life, not just military veterans. Narcissism is an epidemic in corporate America. Sometimes it’s even considered a strategy for success and advancement. As a country, we are not mentally healthy.

And yet, we continue to hear sermons like 7 Steps to a Successful Life, at the exclusion of helping families bring their challenges into the light.

Indeed, most pastors in America say they are not comfortable talking about mental illness or being a part of a support system. Those of us in the church who are struggling mentally feel unwelcome, because nobody knows what to do with us. Everything we hear in church seems to imply that, if you’re a real Christian, you can’t really have depression.

So we dry our tears, stuff our fears, and pretend everything is okay. Or, we take the easy way out and leave the church altogether. I know churches can do better, and that’s why I’m sharing my story.

Do people with cancer or other life-threatening illnesses attend church and receive prayer and emotional support? Yes, every week. But the moment you mention Christians having depression, you get uncomfortable looks. I believe it is possible to treat mental illness as normal, simply because for so many it is. It’s possible to view depression through an accurate lens rather than as a scandal and to treat anxiety as something deeper than a lack of faith. Depression and anxiety are as much a sin as having leukemia. Mental illness is not a sin, it’s a sickness, and as Christians, we ought to be the first to seek to help.

 

Christian Help for Depression

My pastor visited me while I was in the psych ward, and what he said to me gave me hope—for my own future and the Church as a whole.

“You have too much to live for. Yes, you’re depressed right now, but you are still beautifully and wonderfully made. God’s not done with you yet. Don’t you go leaving us. People in our church need what you’ve got.”

My pastor didn’t shy away from me or ignore my mental illness. He visited me and gave me a snippet of hope in a dark place. He knew what to do, and he did it.

I’ve felt the affirmation of hearing some of my own mental health conditions mentioned in sermons. I’ve seen groups of believers rally around a suicidal man to affirm his worth, staving off the darkness with Christ-like love. I have watched as an anxious woman is enveloped in care instead of ridicule.

So, I choose hope. I believe the future will hold powerful moments where the mentally ill feel inclusion, acceptance, and hope.

 

Churches can become a safe haven for the mentally ill

There’s one more thing I believe: no person can achieve all that God has in mind for them when they exist outside a local church body. Mentally ill or otherwise, each of us only becomes the best version of ourselves, the most clear representation of Jesus, living the most sanctified lives, and expressing the fullness of what God has placed into our hearts—together.

It’s time to stop withholding this opportunity for maturity from those with mental illnesses. No more should the lie be told that only the mentally well can serve God and pursue Him wholeheartedly. With the exception of Jesus, God has only used broken humans to accomplish his purposes. (And even Jesus suffered from depression)

 

Are you okay?: Don’t sweep your mental illness under the rug

Have you ever felt “not okay” in your head? Most have at one time. Instead of running from the reality of your mental illness or shaming yourself, will you bring your thoughts and feelings to God?

The church won’t get any better at caring for the mentally ill if we don’t talk about it. We need to engage in honest conversations about what depression, anxiety, and other mental illnesses look like—and welcome people to bring their thoughts and feelings to us for healing in loving Christian community.

That’s when real change will start. The time is now.

 

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