Redefine Normal // Rediscover Hope

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When #WINNING is not winning

Ever have one of those moments where you realize you are not quite as awesome a parent as you imagined?

I had one of those moments two nights ago. My daughter Cynthia was out of pajama tops, so she asked to wear one of my t-shirts. I said yes, and she grabbed a shirt with the above image on it.

I thought nothing of it, until she walked back out into the living room. Then I realized she was actually accusing herself of being a slow thinker simply by wearing the shirt.

Because of her autism, Cynthia usually is the last one to laugh at things. It take time for her to process humor, and many times she does not understand the joke at all.

And here I am – her loving father – owning clothing that mocks slow thinkers.


This is deeper than a silly t-shirt. It is time for some serious reassessment of priorities here. In this world of memes and mockumentaries, I find it very easy to jump into the fray with my quick wit. In this environment, the person with the fastest lips wins. Honestly, I win a lot under this scoring system. But maybe the scoring system is broke.

How Does God Score?

Two Scriptures confirm that the game of quick wits is not a game God plays.

Understand this, my dear brothers and sisters: You must all be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry.

James 1:19

Don’t use foul or abusive language. Let everything you say be good and helpful, so that your words will be an encouragement to those who hear them.

Ephesians 4:29

I want slow to speak to means something different in the original language, so I can continue to win my word game. I wish everything didn’t mean everything. But there is no escape. God scores by the intent of the heart. It is time to quit playing this game.

Playing God’s Game

Here is the decision I have made. I am going to stop playing the game of quick wits. I am going to start judging my words by the Ephesians 4:29 standard. Are my words good? Are my words helpful? Do they encourage the hearer?

I am going to be awful at this decision. I like being hilarious, but I do so often at the expense of another person, or even myself. But I have had enough #winning for a lifetime already.

I give you permission to call me out if you see me tearing someone (ANYONE) down with my words. Please be kind – this is a major shift for me.

I also invite you to join me.

Are you ready to stop #winning and start winning?